A Difficult Decision After Dad’s Passing
After my father passed away, my mother was left alone, and I felt it was only right to invite her to live with us. At first, my husband was completely against the idea. He argued that my mother would just become another burden. But eventually, he agreed on one condition: my grieving mother would have to pay rent.
He said, “Your mother is a leech. Once she moves in, she’ll never leave. She needs to contribute since she’ll be using our resources. This house isn’t a hotel.”
His words made my blood boil. The house is jointly ours, yet he spoke as if we were running an Airbnb, setting terms and conditions like a business. Even though his demand seemed unreasonable, I knew he wasn’t a bad person. He and my mom have never gotten along. He would always tell me, “Your mother has never liked me. She’d feel uncomfortable living with me.”
Now, I find myself stuck between two sides. On one hand, I want to support my mother, who’s mourning the loss of her husband. On the other, I don’t want to create tension in my marriage. I don’t know if I should rent a room to my mother and accept the strain it might cause with my husband or try to get my husband to empathize with the situation and let her stay without conditions.
It’s a tough situation. I’m torn between what feels like the right thing for my mom and trying to keep peace with my husband. I don’t know what the best choice is, but I have to find a way to navigate these two difficult emotions.
So, what should I do? Rent a room to my mother or ask for my husband’s understanding?
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